"Sometimes it is the person closests to us who must travel the furthest distance to be our friend." >Robert Brault
There's a lot of talk around here about building community, in other words, taking time out of our busy schedules to get to know those around us. So many of us feel like we don't have any close friends, I'm one of them, I often feel very seperated from everyone around me. When I look around and see others talking or spending time together, I wonder why it's never me that's there. I realized that I have to start by looking from the outside in, what I am I doing to build community. Sure I've had people over, but not nearly as often as I could or should. Why is it that those that are closest to me need to work so hard to be my friend? What am I doing or not doing that makes it hard for them to get close to me? Then I realize that if I'm not willing to "stop and smell the roses" or slow down and invite someone over even if my house is a mess or the laundry is not done I can't very well look at others and wonder why they don't want me over.
I'm really going to start making an effort to have people over more, I really think it's important. Gone are the days when someone just 'stopped by for a visit' without calling, I really do like it when people just pop in, but in our day and age that just does not happen any more. I'm just going to have to take the time to make the phone call, maybe even more than one, after all one might be busy and won't be able to make it so it might actually take some effort on my part. I've resolved to do it though, even if it means I have to try more than once. After all, building community is loving others and that is what God has called us to.
Those who choose to listen...
About Me
- Bonnie
- I am a mother of one tween and two teens and the wife of a man who I love. I am the follower of a Lord and Savior that is living, real and my everything. I love to spend time with friends, even though I don't do it very often, I love my job and I love going to my kids sports events. I golf with my husband, even though I don't do it well, he is always very patient with me. My life is good, not perfect, but good. I am happy.
Proverbs 17:17
A friend loves at all times.
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Hi Bonnie! I have really enjoyed getting to spend time with you twice in one week! Let's try to keep getting together often:) And I think you're so right...I'm definitely working on not letting the state of my house determine whether I invite someone over....I'm not totally comfortable in my mess yet, but I'm trying!
so hard, so right, so messy, heh? i hear you. and your post reminded me of something i read in my devotions this morning...
" life in community does not keep the darkness away. To the contrary. It seems that the light that attracted me to L'Arch also made me conscious of the darkness in myself. Jealousy, anger, the feeling of being rejected or neglected, the sense of not truly belonging -- all of these emerged in the context of a community striving for a life of forgiveness, reconciliation and healing. Community life has opened me up to the real spiritual combat: the struggle to keep moving towards the light precisely when the darkness is so real."
~HEnri Nouwen
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